The Power of Female Friendships: How a Close Bond Can Evolve into Sisterhood

The Power of Female Friendships: How a Close Bond Can Evolve into Sisterhood by Justsimplyciani

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These past few months of  my life have come with many highs and lows during my time with grief.  Grieving the loss of a loved one can be truly difficult. Missing those personal moments and time you wish you could spend more with them. Has honestly been the most difficult! Time, and feeling like you didn’t have enough of it. It’s been a journey! But you know what has helped me the most? Being surrounded by the people who love me the most. 

            During the passing of my uncle, I was fortunate to go on vacation for a wedding with my closest friends. Although I was sad, being on vacation had taken my mind off of things. I was glad, during that time, and months later to be surrounded by people who continue to support me throughout this journey. I am extremely grateful for my friends, constantly checking up on me and being a constant listening ear when I needed it the most. 

         However, during my grief process,  I am learning the value of friendship and sisterhood! Friendship is not just about turning up and having fun! Gossiping about what’s going on? Finding the next tea. But it’s moments like this when life becomes possibly imperfect and suddenly too much to handle all at one. It’s about feeling supported and sometimes reaffirming that person during their darkest moments in life! It’s about celebrating the good and bad times in the midst of your friendship. But most of all feeling completely free to be your true authentic self in the midst of each of your journeys as women, safe and loved. It’s about overcoming those hurdles and your friends are right there, cheering you on!!  That’s what friendship is all about celebrating each other! 

     Although friendship could look and feel differently for each person from their own experience with other women. Ask yourself what kind of friend do I want to be to myself ? I asked myself the same question. In order for me to become friends with someone else. I had to love myself more, unconditionally before putting forth someone else’s needs before my own. Friendship is almost like being in a committed relationship! And it can be hard. But you’ll know with the right people that come along your journey. Who is supposed to be there all along!

You see,  I had to learn my self-value and self- worth! It wasn’t always like this. Until I was tired of being friends with people who were constantly draining me, emotionally and spiritually. Tell yourself that each day, I am worthy! You are so worthy to have healthy relationships with people you call friends. You are worthy to feel seen and appreciated, to not feel like you are taking so much space because of someone’s imposing their insecurities onto you. For simply being yourself!’ You deserve a friendship that will someday lead to a sisterhood with the other like minded women. Find your sisterhood and community! I believe friendship is the true testament of God’s unconditional love. It’s a blessing to share those core memories with someone that truly could last a lifetime and the next!